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#46
Posted 31 December 2007 - 03:30 PM
Remember Emu's face, people; one day it's going to be on the news alongside a headline about blowing some landmark to smithereens, and then we can all sigh and say, "She was such a normal person".....
....We'd be lying though.
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#47
Posted 31 December 2007 - 04:23 PM
Also, OP, you're coming off as a leetle crazy what with your constant references to marriage. It's been one date. Any normal girl get a whiff of what you're saying to us, after one date and two weeks of phone/internet correspondence? She'd bolt. But then, this one did give her home address to you after never having met you, so who knows - maybe she's already picking out the cake. *shudder*
#48
Posted 31 December 2007 - 06:00 PM
Naturally I agree with Spoon that all of this marriage talk is ridiculous after one date, that this girl is too self-centred to be worth an $80 tab (first dates by the way shouldn't ever cost real money, so I hope you're not on minimum wage or anything), that talk of past relationships is verboten, etc. But I disagree that she may not really have a medical reason for the pills. Lots of people are so self-centred that they will unload all of their shit to any and every complete stranger they meet. This is never to be taken in a good way ("she's so honest!"). This is always to be taken in a bad way ("she never listens!").
Anyway, I know you'll disagree. I've been here before. Do what you're gonna do and let us know how it works out.
#49
Posted 31 December 2007 - 07:14 PM
Anyone care to put money on this? Personally I'm of the mind that you're confusing love with lust. But hey, what do I know? I'm a seventeen year old with a girlfriend I met online.
PM me, we'll talk.
#50
Posted 31 December 2007 - 07:29 PM
Also, OP, you're coming off as a leetle crazy what with your constant references to marriage. It's been one date. Any normal girl get a whiff of what you're saying to us, after one date and two weeks of phone/internet correspondence? She'd bolt. But then, this one did give her home address to you after never having met you, so who knows - maybe she's already picking out the cake. *shudder*
Any normal/average/mundane western girl would do that. His date is from a foreign culture.
This post has been edited by Snake Logan: 31 December 2007 - 07:30 PM
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#51
Posted 01 January 2008 - 06:37 PM
princesskadee, that is exactly what I was hinting at. Bravo. Not to say that all women are golddiggers until proven otherwise, but a little prudence never hurt anybody. Discretion is the better part of valour, after all. I was also referring to emotional stress that may build up from having a partner who demands to be the epicentre of your very universe.
Spoon Poetic: I applaud you. Damn good points, each and every one of them.
Right, now for the tricky part. Optimus, listen well my friend. Your last post provided more information and not much of it was good. This gal sounds like she could pass as a twin for the aforementioned mistake I nearly made - and if this goes the same way you can expect arguments, yelling and emotional blackmail before this month is out. Particularly if you keep on with the marriage thing so soon; I can understand that you might be borderline desperate for that significant other we read so much about in fairy tales; but what you're doing is parallel to running down the hill stark naked while frothing at the mouth and howling to the moon. For mercy's sake man stop and think about everything that could go wrong.
Because it's going to be everything that WILL go wrong if you don't get a grip.
Fairly warned be ye, says I.
#52
Posted 02 January 2008 - 02:44 PM
Mostly, I agree with what a lot of people have been saying. Good luck, but try to distance yourself and think with your head (not the one in your pants).
#53
Posted 02 January 2008 - 05:38 PM
You seem to have set your mind to date, love and marry her... but this is what bothered me about your story:
You use "love" words too often and FAR too early. You were first in love with Kim, now you feel yourself falling for Thi. You should re-evaluate what you think you are feeling, and label it like it is. You feel attracted to her for her beauty. You feel for her past experiences, so you feel that you can protect her, and that you will treat her better than her ex. You feel that you could support her in any addiction that she may have. Great. These are all elements of a lifelong love, BUT they of themselves do not constitute the caliber of love that you are professing to have. For you to profess undying affection for her after one date and some phone conversations just opens yourself up to be hurt and taken advantage of (even if you think she is incapable of it). You are attracted to her on many levels (which is ok), but you shouldn't make the decision to love someone until you have seen them at their best and their worst.
I'm not saying that you are wrong for your attractions to her, nor am I going to go as far as to say that she is a demon-spawn gold-digger, but I will say that you need more time to KNOW her before you decide that you are going to LOVE her.
This is one of my biggest pet peeves... people shouldn't even THINK about saying "love" until it is 100% true. Value yourself and the other person enough to be honest about how you feel.
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#54
Posted 02 January 2008 - 05:51 PM
I think the most successful dating experiences are the ones that began as simple meetings, with casual discovery of common interests, not as contrived "love" interactions. But that's just me and the things I've seen.
#55
Posted 02 January 2008 - 06:28 PM
Society, family, even single people themselves put so much pressure on the "date" that we forget that it is supposed to be fun.
This post has been edited by Dorothy: 02 January 2008 - 06:29 PM
"Maybe artists shouldn't talk about their art."
"Well kids, I guess your father isn't a hermaphrodite."
"Izzy! enough with the rabid smootching!!"