People who are waiting for marriage to have sex.
#211
Posted 11 January 2006 - 08:00 PM
All common reasons married couples stay together.
Sex is rarely one of them.
#212
Posted 11 January 2006 - 08:22 PM
Wise words from a friend who's been trying to cheer me up. Bwahaha. Also, I totally have a date set for Monday!
#214
Posted 13 January 2006 - 03:39 PM
Everyone, all this shit about "experience" and "age" and "wisdom" is all crap. You're just at opposite extremes of the argument: anyone who says that love enhances sex is just saying they would be uncomfortable having sex without love. Asking Jordan to succumb to love and then have sex first is denying that his own sexual experiences may have been just as fun as yours, even if they didn't develop relationships that ran longer.
Speaking from age, and experience, I can tell you that sex is enhanced by mood and lust. Relationships are enhanced by love and trust, and yes, you're gonna have more sex then, so the chance of having boring sex will increase with time. I think this is why love gets its bad rap, because it leads to more sex, increasing the odds of an eventual burnout. My memories of past relationships are seldom memories of sex. My memories of past sex are seldom meories of love.
Yes, to whatever someone said about the zeitgeist and the overselling of high-stakes, take-no-prisoners overheated passion. Yes yes of course. But that might just mean the answer is more recreational sex, without all the overheated romance and heightened expectation. It's not necessarily an argument for love.
Jordan: it'd be nice I guess if you met someone you could feel strongly about. Then you'd know for sure whether you're one of those people whose relationships are enhanced by love, or whether you're just looking to blow your wad.
This post has been edited by civilian_number_two: 15 January 2006 - 09:55 PM
#215
Posted 13 January 2006 - 07:47 PM
#216
Posted 13 January 2006 - 08:26 PM
That's what I think. I think I was trying to say that.
This post has been edited by Jordan: 13 January 2006 - 08:35 PM
#217
Posted 15 January 2006 - 01:14 AM
I feel that sex is enhanced by love...
But never was uncomfortable with the sex without love bit, either.
People can think whatever they want to about sex and love, but I don't appreciate being told that I'm wrong about something that really has no right answer; that my beliefs are screwed up; and that I don't know what I'm talking about.
And for the record, it's not that love can make bad sex good or anything quite so dramatic as that. It's more like, instead of the sex being purely physical, the emotional side gets to have its role, too, and for many people (even though guys don't like to admit it), this can be extraordinary. Also, since you're not having sex just for the sake of sex, it can take the pressure off, you don't feel like you need to be "good," relaxging you and making you better, afterall. This is my own experience as well as experience that has been shared with me by others, girl and guy.
Edit: I'm feeling generous, so I fixed an obnoxious typo in the second to last sentence.
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This post has been edited by Slade: 15 January 2006 - 02:58 AM
#218
Posted 15 January 2006 - 02:56 AM
The emotional attachment takes away all of the pressure that just having sex entails (such as the need to perform), and lets the couple enjoy being intimate with one another in as deeply a way as humans can physically be, as a fun experience that reflects the emotional intimacy shared.
Dr. Lecter: That wise man was generalizing about women and men entirely too much to make any valid points that apply to individuals.
#219
Posted 15 January 2006 - 07:03 AM
#223
Posted 16 January 2006 - 04:07 PM
Remember Emu's face, people; one day it's going to be on the news alongside a headline about blowing some landmark to smithereens, and then we can all sigh and say, "She was such a normal person".....
....We'd be lying though.
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#225
Posted 16 January 2006 - 04:55 PM
Meaningless sex. It's just bad, in my opinion. In comparison, Perla was utter crap in bed, but still sex with her was always far far more enjoyable and rewarding.