People who are waiting for marriage to have sex.
#196
Posted 09 January 2006 - 07:56 PM
My boyfriend and I recently split up, but, while we were together, we had a wonderful and loving relationship which sex happened to be a big part of. For my last birthday, he bought me a kama sutra book. But I personally don't have religion or anything holding me back, and I loved the guy, so I saw no valid reason not to. Sex is as much emotional for me as it is physical.
I can also do the "casual sex" thing. I haven't often done it with guys, because I hang out with dorky guys who would totally get attached and fall in love....but I've had a few female friends that were just friends, that I would often sleep with. That kind of sex has a different feel to it though...it's just having a good time with a girl friend; relieving some stress. I suppose the best way to explain it for me, is that sex goes into two categories. It's sort of like, you can go to the movies with a friend and just be hanging out as friends...or you can go to the movies with a lover, and you're all romantic about it. Sex can be divided in a similiar way for me. I will not sleep with random strangers...I only fool around with people that I love, on some level. But I can have sex with a friend, and love them, as friends, whereas I can have sex with a lover, and be IN love with them, and it's a completely different experience.
No matter what your views are, sex is great, and I give it a big thumbs up! It's good excersise, the chemicals released in your body during an orgasm act as a natural pain killer, as well as a nasal decongestant (for those of you prone to allergies or colds) and good fun is had by all! Sex is the most beautiful, passionate form of art, and nearly anyone can excel at it if they so desire.
#197
Posted 09 January 2006 - 08:04 PM
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No pun intended there...
#198
Posted 10 January 2006 - 02:52 PM
And afterwards, if you're not in love with the person, you get to feel all akward and slimey for sharing body fluid with a stranger.
You're in the mood one minute and then the next you're not. Even if you're in-love with the girl, you still don't love her as much as you did prior to blowing your load.
It's a overhyped. Love making, rofl, it's fucking.
This post has been edited by Jordan: 10 January 2006 - 02:55 PM
#199
Posted 10 January 2006 - 03:14 PM
#200
Posted 10 January 2006 - 06:09 PM
Anyway, I am sorry that that's what sex is to you, and perhaps you're just umm...doing it wrong, or something...
And no, Lecter. Girlfriends and I have used it to take advantage of guys before, though. I'm amazed at how fascinating men find it. A male friend once offered to buy us dinner if we made out and let him watch.
#201
Posted 10 January 2006 - 08:02 PM
Granted, I've never been in love. I've dated enough, but don't think I fell in love.
I can't imagine some one saying "I'm so in love with you, let's have sex." But rather "I'm really horney, we are in love and dating, so let's not deny ourselves of our rights, let's hump till the cows come home, and not because I'm so in love with you, but because I'm really wanting to get laid"
I think sex is separate from love but they compliment on another, but not in a way that makes the actual act of sex any better. Love makes sex more legit, that's about it. You don't need to feel guilty and worry about it. It's not like you banged some random. But some one you trust and know well. Even though you could have better sex with some one else. See what I'm saying?
This post has been edited by Jordan: 10 January 2006 - 08:05 PM
#202
Posted 10 January 2006 - 10:04 PM
#203
Posted 11 January 2006 - 08:38 AM
Romance and is the fist thing that dies then good sex then sex drive. Marriage scares me a bit.
This post has been edited by Jordan: 11 January 2006 - 08:39 AM
#204
Posted 11 January 2006 - 11:19 AM
Spoon: It has to do with the emotional intimacy shared, though I can't get into anything about it at the moment.
Everybody: This is not a porn thread, so lets keep our hands above the keyboard, ok?
#205
Posted 11 January 2006 - 01:57 PM
I'll have you know I have a wireless keyboard, thus I can just put my keyboard on the floor... and I'll just stop here...
#206
Posted 11 January 2006 - 03:12 PM
I don't think it's very fair for you to make these close-minded assumptions when you said yourself you have no experience in this area.
#207
Posted 11 January 2006 - 05:09 PM
And as far as getting bored with eachother is concerned...well, boring people make for boring sex. If both parties are creative, boredom is highly improbable. Each time you fool around, and the more you build on your emotional relationship, the more you will trust eachother and be willing to try your craziest ideas. If you and your partner are in love, and have a boring sex life, you have only yourselves to blame...
#208
Posted 11 January 2006 - 07:12 PM
But seriously, I plan on falling in love when I'm about 30. So till then, I'm just going to assume what I've assumed to be a proper assumption.
Sex gets boring with the same person over and over again. Once you're used to one another, it gets old. That's why you have kids, to keep you occupied with something. I just can't imagine how sleeping with the same person for the next 30 years or so would still be fun. I think it would be come clockwork after a while. And who wants to get all kinky with their wife after 20 years of plain-jane sex? Oh man that would be akward.
Making love to your wife of 30 years would shadow in comparison to having sex with a 21 year old. You'd feel guity afterwards, perhaps, but while you're doing 'it' and are in the mood, you'd be enjoying it a ton more.
LIke seriously, Eddie Murphy said it best. "do you want your girl to say "lets make love?" or "I wanna f**k tha s**t out of you!"' How can you not see what i'm getting at? Maybe I'm having trouble communicating right now.
This post has been edited by Jordan: 11 January 2006 - 07:26 PM
#209
Posted 11 January 2006 - 07:35 PM
And the whole teenager thing? Age is a state of mind. Just look at the difference between you and I, my dear.
#210
Posted 11 January 2006 - 07:41 PM
I'd assume that if you've been married for thirty years sex wouldn't really be as important as it used to be..
Also, my parents have been married for twenty-eight years. I don't think the sex is what's kept them together.
...At least, I'd like to avoid thinking that at all costs...Uuuugh...
Chyld is an ignorant slut.
- Campbell Bean (David Tennant), Takin' Over the Asylum, 1994